Step-Parent Counseling &
Communication Skills Counseling

Step-Parent Counseling

The role of a second wife or husband is rife with difficulties, and those in the form of a fearful and innocent child can be especially challenging. The child of a divorced parent needs understanding, love and a firm, guiding hand. Divorce disrupts family life and triggers a child’s confusion because of divided loyalties toward parents.

It is important to assure the child that he/she is loved and wanted in both parent’s homes, despite the divorce. The consistent assurance will help stabilize the youngster and lessen loyalty issues. Let the child know he/she is "safe" to express honest feelings. Nothing will be held against him/her. Help the child to feel "special" in the new family setting.

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Communication Skills

It seems that a major obstruction to a healthy relationship is not finances, not sex, not children. It is a lack of effective communication skills. People talk to each other, but they don't listen. The skill of listening is 75% of constructive communication. Very often, couples are so intent on formulating a retort in their minds that they are unable to truly listen to their partner. This deficit promotes extreme confusion, mass mis-communication, and greatly blemishes their relationship.

As a psychologist, I will set up communication exercises that you can practice in session and at home. You can improve communication and problem-solving skills to the level of being the powerful tool that it is to foster harmony and contentment. It is a matter of becoming aware of the real reasons for arguing and fighting and learning how to resolve your conflicts with understanding and love.

Counseling can save marriages by breaking through tough relationship issues caused by poor communication.

 

Second Wives Club

is co-author of the relationship book "THE SECOND WIVES CLUB: Secrets for Becoming Lovers for Life," based upon her experience with "second-time-around" couples (straight or gay). The book was endorsed by Dr. John Gray, author of "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus" and Dr. Gerald G. Jampolsky, M.D., author of "Love Is Letting Go of Fear" and "Forgiveness."